Computer Love

Yvonne S. wrote:

I’m 25 and I’m so over the bar/night club scene.  A few of my friends have encouraged me to try on-line dating.  What do you think? 

Yvonne, there is nothing wrong with trying a little computer love (gracias, Roger y Zapp).  I’ve had a lot of friends who found love online and I’ve also heard some horror stories.  Jefe has even found success with online dating.  There’s a lot to consider when it comes to finding “love” online.

Be careful when choosing a dating site.  Not all are legit.  Also, be careful not to give out too much personal information online.  Get to know somebody first before you exchange numbers.  As a matter of fact, here are a few pointers:

  1. Be classy – State exactly what you’re looking for and post good, tasteful pictures of yourself.  ‘Member, it’s all about the bait and what type of fish you’re looking to lure.  If you’re classy, you’ll attract classy guys (for the most part); if you portray yourself as a party girl or some kind of hooch, you’ll more than likely attract douche bags.
  2. Be selective – You know what you want and don’t want in a man.  Don’t settle for anything less.  I’m not saying wait for Mr. Perfect either (Jefe’s already taken; it’s a joke – Jefe’s lady can attest he’s far from it), just be careful who is out there.
  3. Take your time – A lot of people, both men and women, are in such a rush to find love that they jump right into something with the first person that shows interest.  Slow down, hones!  I suggest emailing and/or instant messaging for a while before you exchange numbers, should you get that far.  If you do, there’s no rush to meet.  Talking on the phone gives you a better sense of how that person is.  If he texts more than calls, drop him.  Texting is impersonal.
  4. Meet in public – When the time comes to actually meet a potential match/date, make sure you meet in public.  Until you get to really know them, face to face, they don’t need to know where your pad is.  Being overly cautious is a good thing.

There’s good and bad that go with online dating but it’s up to you to be wise about it!   People do find love online.  For example, a very good friend of Jefe found her husband on eHarmony.  They’ve been married for about four years and have two beautiful kids, a boy and girl.  Some other friends of Jefe met on Match.com and have been married for a few years.  So as you can see, it does work.  Just take your time and be smart!  Buena suerte!

Submit your questions to: ask_jefe@yahoo.com

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One response to “Computer Love

  1. Very good pointers, Jefe. Hopefully our single friends out there will follow your advice. :)

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