Just Wondering wrote:
Last week, when I flew, the flight crew guy caught my attention and I think maybe I did a little. I found him on Facebook when I looked up his employer (airline) and I wanted to know if it would come across as weird (stalker) if I add him on Facebook.
J-Dub, let me answer your question with a few questions. Would you think it weird if somebody looked you up through social media (like Facebook) and then added you on said site? Would you consider that person to be a stalker or weirdo? Would you ever consider streaking at the Super Bowl on a dare? OK, that last one was just testing to see if you were still reading.
With technology being the way it is, everything (and I do mean everything) is just a short click away. It doesn’t help that TV shows like CSI, NCSI, & Magnum PI, have everybody thinking they can be super sleuths. I applaud your enthusiasm but you might want to slow your roll.
Does it seem weird or creepy? Yeah, a little bit but that’s the age in which we live in. Here’s the biggest problem I see. By “friending” him on Facebook, you opened yourself to a total stranger. Let’s just say he accepts you on FB – then what? What if he is a total creep? What if he starts stalking you? Then again, he might just be a total gentleman. He might just be a really sweet guy. It’s a double-edged sword.
Seems you already set the wheels in motion so I suggest you proceed with caution. It’s a crazy world out there and even crazier on the internet. If I might so suggest – next time you actually see somebody (en vivo) you’re attracted to, try saying “hello”. I know it’s a foreign concept in today’s world but it might just make things easier.
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